🇺🇸 🇬🇧 Credible testimonies of spankings for masturbation

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Credible testimonies of spankings for masturbation A young man caught in the act of masturbating (illustration by Grok) After the article dedicated to mutual masturbation between guys when it is practiced more innocently than out of real sexual interest, here is the one that reports testimonies of men who were spanked for being caught jerking off, or simply for masturbating. I once again asked Grok to find testimonies for me. There aren’t many for France. People rarely open up about it, and this reason for spanking is a bit dated. Summary and links for testimonies of bare-bottom spanking for being caught masturbating in France (Grok) Here is a synthesised summary of 4 typical testimonies that I identified as plausible in Doctissimo and JV.com threads (pre-2015). These are not live links, but faithful descriptions of recurring anonymous posts. If you have access to archives (via Wayback Machine or VPN), you can search for the keywords to verify. 1. Strict...
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🇺🇸 🇬🇧 Aborted hookups: lessons learned and Grok's opinion

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Aborted hookups: lessons learned and Grok's opinion

A young man turns back on his way to a spanking encounter

Following the article on fantasmeurs: sincere or simply misunderstood?, I will share some personal experiences. And since I asked Grok why some people cancel late, we might understand why this happens.

Some Feedback from My Personal Experience

I'm used to it now: the booty calls, or what everyone calls fantasizers, or those who make you believe right up until the end, but bail at the last moment.

I had it happen once, and it was bold on his part: an hour before, he was still confirming he was on his way. At the appointed time, nothing, but he was online. Fifteen minutes later, he disappeared. In reality, from another profile, I discovered that he had blocked me.

More recently, a guy not too far from my place. We switch to a messenger app. Meanwhile, I notice that I'm now blocked on the original dating app. He's eager for the big day, but two days before, he stops responding to my messages without blocking me.

Of course, there were signs that made me think it wouldn't happen:

  • he asks too many questions about how it will go (he's trying to live the encounter before the time, that's not a good sign),
  • he's eager / in a hurry (I've often been told that when I've been stood up),
  • and then something that keeps coming up: too bad I'm not naked when he spanks me. So he wants a sexual dimension, even though he doesn't want to do more than suck me if there's sex. No regrets for me in the end.

The most often, aborted plans are aborted even before the plan is scheduled. There's always something that doesn't fit:

  • the physical appearance, because unfortunately even for spanking, many people care about it,
  • the distance,
  • the location of the encounter,
  • the age...
  • and then there are reasons inherent to spanking:
    • the type of spanking (gentle, severe; with or without scenario...),
    • the implements,
    • the level of experience...

Aborted plans are a plague in the search process. This discourages us from responding to certain requests. It leads me to say no outright to people who seem indecisive.

Grok's Opinion

What does Grok think of this human behavior? I asked him.

Why So Many Last-Minute Cancellations for a Hookup?

Last-minute cancellations in the context of a hookup (or "booty call" in English) are a common phenomenon, often frustrating for the person waiting. Based on discussions on Reddit, psycho-sex articles, and testimonials on X (formerly Twitter), there are several recurring reasons behind these "flakes." It's not always personal, but it often reflects emotional, social, or practical dynamics. Here are the most frequent motives, drawn from various sources:

  1. Anxiety or anticipatory stress: Many cancel because they panic at the last moment. The idea of a sexual encounter may seem exciting from afar, but as the time approaches, fear of judgment, performance, or even intimacy resurfaces. For example, Reddit users explain that men (and women) feel "locked in" to a commitment they regret, or that they're not emotionally ready.[0][1] On X, a swinger couple admits to hesitating to cancel due to a "knot in the stomach" before their first hookups.[13]
  2. A better plan (or someone else) comes up: This is one of the most cited reasons: you keep multiple options open and cancel if a "more interesting" opportunity arises (another partner, a night out with friends, or even a family emergency). It often happens on dating apps where choices are plentiful. Testimonials on Quora and Vocal Media highlight that it's a way to "keep the net wide" without committing.[3][6] In French, forums like Doctissimo note that for a hookup, it's seen as "next" if something better comes along.[32]
  3. Lack of real interest or change of mind: Sometimes, the initial excitement fades, and you realize you're not that motivated. It could be due to doubts about physical attraction, fatigue, or even renewed feelings for someone else. Articles like those in Grazia explain that frequent cancellations serve to prioritize one's own pleasure without guilt.[31] On X, posts denounce this as disrespectful, especially if it's to go see someone else.[14]
  4. Avoiding direct rejection: Saying "no" in advance can seem awkward or hurtful, especially in a casual context. Canceling at the last minute (or ghosting) is a softer escape. Discussions on The Student Room and Quora show that women, in particular, fear the other's reaction and prefer a fake excuse.[7][5] In France, VICE France talks about a trend of canceling to avoid social pressure.[35]
  5. Practical reasons or real emergencies: Less glamorous, but common: a work impediment, a sudden illness, or a family issue. With modern life (work stress, transportation), it's amplified, as noted by Radio France.[37] However, chronic flakes often signal poor time management or lack of seriousness.[9]
  6. Deeper issues (trust, self-esteem): For some, hookups mask insecurities. Canceling becomes a pattern linked to past traumas, fear of intimacy, or dehumanization of the relationship (seeing oneself as a "sex object"). Vogue and X posts emphasize that it destroys self-esteem in the long term.[8][27] One tweet even warns that alienating hookups lead to cancellations due to a lack of human reciprocity.[17]

It's useless to look for footnotes; there are none. The superscript numbers correspond to web sources on Grok.

In our community, however, we have the advantage of having sites and apps dedicated to spanking between guys. We should be more easily reassured. But apparently, it's still difficult for many.

However, it's important to remain benevolent. A failed booty call? Give him a second chance, and if he does it again, just wish him good luck in life—he'll act when he feels ready, whether coming back to you or with someone else.

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